The Sociable French
Sunday, April 22nd, 2007
Why use one word when 3 or 4 will do……………
The French have an international reputation for being expressive and passionate. It is well deserved!! There is little they love more than a social occasion. And they love to talk, discuss, argue and debate. Which is fine by us, we love to listen, and watch!!
I well remember one evening we were hosting ‘les aperitifs’ at our home in St Remy. There were only 13 people present but the noise level was right up there on the decibel count. At one point I counted 9 (nine!) different conversations all flowing at the same time. It made me wonder who was listening, or whether that mattered or not!!
Anyone who has hosted French friends to even the most informal ‘drinks’ session will tell you to prepare your stamina. Once you are through the cheese and cafe stage it is not the time to start winding down the evening. Au contraire!! That’s when the serious debating and discussion commences with total disregard to the clock. We had a wedding party stay with us last summer, they left at three o’clock in the afternoon, and the bridal party including Mere and Pere arrived home at six the next morning!!
The French are rarely at a loss for words. On one occasion, we came across a minor accident between two cars. The lady driver of one car was really giving the male driver of the other car a few choice, warm words. We went about our business running a few errands. 20 minutes later we passed by the same spot again and she still had plenty to say to him!
But within this competence of expression and love of the social occasion lies a value that we admire. It relates to the ‘family unit’ which in France is something that is still strong and revered. French families tend to eat together at home regularly, and often at restaurants for lunch on Sunday’s. It is very common to see all three generations of the same family seated around the table. And any young children are just as part of the social event as the ‘grown ups’. We have also noticed how the verbal exchanges and sense of togetherness seem to be the primary focus with the food and wine being the supportive acts. This differs from some cultures where the food and drink can often take centre stage.
A further feature is how the young children are introduced to and educated in drinking wine within this family structure. Drinking wine is a responsible business, it is always sipped and is nearly always taken with food. We can’t help but think that this cultural exposure at a young age leads to a more mature attitude to alcohol amongst young adults in France. We have certainly never seen any signs of binge drinking, and we have been in a bar or two around the country!!
And after the results are known later tonight from the first round of the Presidential elections there will no doubt be enough reason for social occasion. It was that great warrior of battles won and lost, Napoleon Bonaparte who is quoted as saying ‘In victory you deserve champagne, in defeat you need it’!!
A Bientot,
Bruce.